By Yasir Qadhi This is an extract from the lecture: Why Muslims Divide – The psychology of why the people closest to you are the hardest to tolerate The second psychological and anthropological observed reality is called the narcissism of small differences. This is a well observed and documented phenomenon across all strands of movements, whether they are religious, whether they are social, whether they are political, it doesn’t matter. This can be summarized with the following statement: “Groups that are very similar exaggerate smaller differences to maintain their boundaries and identity.” I repeat, you can put it this way, the closer the groups are, the bigger their petty differences are exaggerated. This is an observable phenomenon observed by, as I said, by anthropologists, by psychiatrists, by anybody who’s observed large groups of people in whatever field. This is a phenomenon that transcends religion. In fact, not to justify, I’m just saying this, even Sigmund Freud has an entire chapter about this reality and he writes, not that I love Sigmund Freud, obviously that’s not …